PATTERNS

The road of self-discovery

Your everyday patterns serve as a guiding light to your road of self-discovery.   In order to have a clearer understanding of these patterns, let’s look at your life.  Think about what you did today and evaluate it in the way you lived it.  See the actions you have taken, the routines or patterns you have followed.  Now, look at tomorrow for a moment.  Suppose that tomorrow you had the opportunity to change any part of your life that you did not like.  Would you live it in the same pattern?  What steps would you take to change the patterns you have created?

In reality, you would create the same patterns if you are given time.  Within a matter of days or weeks, you would find yourself in the same compartments that you are in today.  Perhaps you wonder why that is true.  Simply said it is just ingrained within you to do things the same way.  Okay, change the scenario.  Suppose you walk the same path over and over.  You never vary.  Then someone encourages you to follow the path they are walking.  Believe it or not over time, you will walk right back into your own individual path.  Your soul will automatically put you back in the line where you were before until your needed lesson is learned.   

Even though I have a full life, why do I always feel so empty?

When you feel your life is empty and unfilled, more than likely, it is because you are no longer the main character in your life.  For too long you have allowed everyone else’s needs and wants to be center staged in your own life.  Therefore, to confront and heal this part of you, you must ask yourself this question.  In what part of my life do I feel overwhelmed, ignored, or misplaced?  Perhaps your work does not stimulate you or if you find yourself in a family where you do not fit or in a relationship that seems to be crumbling.  Some part of you is not being fed.  Therefore, focus on you and your life.   Even though doing so may be difficult, it is the only way to satisfy the hunger, the emptiness in you. 

Unfortunately, most are taught that from the time they are small not to live selfishly.  So they find confusion and guilt in making decisions and choices for their betterment.  These feelings cause most of us to stop wanting more, creating for us a sense of emptiness.

Try this exercise. 

Think of a part of your life when you felt alone.  Perhaps it was long ago; perhaps it was yesterday or even today.  Just think of any part of your life where you felt completely alone.  Then think about that time period.  What was it you needed in your life at that moment you weren’t getting?  Can you see any reason why you reacted the way you did that made you feel so alone?  Can you sense the hunger again and yet know that you have learned from that situation? 

Now think about yourself at this moment.  Is there anything missing in your life right now?  Where do you feel hungry?  What would you like more of that you do not have?  Identify the voids in your life, acknowledge them, and seek to fill them by establishing goals for yourself that will help you become a stronger, more fulfilled person.

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